Love Until Your Heart Breaks

It’s a sweet surrender, falling in love. We give up a part of ourselves that doesn’t come back, ever. Yet, it is a part of us that stays with the other person; it stays with them, and helps them grow. Unfortunately, even the sweetest love can falter. For some reason, we have in our minds this idea of eternal love, a love that stands the test of time. While I have to admit that this love does exist in a few instances and in a few forms, I believe that a lot of people miss the fact that in most cases it doesn’t just happen. It has to be strived for, worked at, and achieved.

I know I’ve struggled with the fact that love is a true emotion, but it’s a hard thing to accept when various psychologists attribute the feeling to “attachment.” I’d much rather believe love to be the antithesis of fear than admit it’s a simple attachment formed between two people; because, let’s face it, there is such a strong feeling that exists there that it can’t just be a simple attachment, it can’t. The longing, desire, pain, hurt, tenderness, and passion that consume us when we think of our loved one cannot be described as attachment; instead, I believe it’s love.
Love has the power to break us more than anything else does, because it touches the deepest part of our being. We are afraid of its presence because we fear its absence. We hear the phrase “better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all” and scoff at it. Why? Because to us it is a mockery of how we feel when we have a broken love and a broken heart. We wish we’d never fallen in love, that its ghost would leave us so the hurt doesn’t linger in our hearts. Yet, love helps us grow, whether it spans eternity or not. Love helps us see who we are, and the absence of it makes us yearn to better ourselves.
Without love, we wouldn’t be driven to do so many of the things that we do, to achieve so many of the things we achieve. Love is necessary, as much as we like to deny it, to live and breathe. It gives us fulfillment and a sense of purpose in life. We are capable of loving friends, family, and others in such a deep way, and that capability exceeds sense. We cannot claim, “I will never love again” without making ourselves out to be a liar. This is because we love without thinking, without our minds allowing it or giving permission. We are lovers by nature, and that nature will not be denied. So don’t try, love, and when it hurts, love more. Despite our beliefs, love heals pain, hurt, and emptiness, even when it was caused by love itself.
Love is the most amazing sensation, and we shouldn’t deny it, but instead embrace it. Love until your heart breaks, and then, love more.